How To Not Let Fear and Insecurity Stop You

“I get excited about an idea and then low self-esteem and all that comes at me. Would you recommend a life coach to work though the fear?”

Someone in my masterclass last week asked me a question about how to work through the fears and limiting beliefs that arise while creating a business, and how to not let these prevent you from moving forward in your process.

Well, last week after finishing my masterclass, instead of just feeling accomplished and ready to move forward with the momentum I'd created, I all of a sudden felt paralyzed by fear and imposter syndrome.

Instead of just feeling proud of myself for all of the things that went well, I couldn’t let go of the things I had done “wrong”.

I felt embarrassed and even shame about it.

I started to question again if this is even what I really want to be doing. If this is even something I can help people with. If I am even going in the right direction.

I did my Inner Walk practice, and it helped me release those thoughts for the day.

And the next day, when it was time to “get back to work”, I still had a lot of resistance coming up… So I decided not to force myself that day, and the next day it was Friday- the weekend (where I generally try to stay off my computer).

I had so much I felt I “needed to get done”, and so much resistance to doing ANYTHING related to work at the same time.

So I told myself that I would give myself the entire weekend to “recover”, and gave myself the time and space I needed in order to allow the anxiety and fear to be there and move through me, without me trying to fix or change it.

My mind kept wanting to do different things, but I knew this was not the space I wanted to work from.

My mind was saying one thing, but my body was saying something else.

So which one did I listen to? My body.

When my body is saying no to something, there is always a reason for it. So instead of trying to force myself to do something, like my mind tells me I should, I trust the intelligence of my body, until it is ready to work again.

So last weekend I did not touch my computer (which was not easy), and then all of a sudden I woke on Monday morning feeling back to being myself again, without the intrusive thoughts or the fear stopping me from doing the things I wanted to do.

Sometimes just allowing the fear and discomfort to be there is all we need to do. We don’t have to try and change it, or force ourselves to keep “doing” or working if we’re not in the right head space yet.

It can take time- maybe a few days, maybe even a week or more, but sometimes not acting is the way to go.

When we don’t let our fear-based thoughts dictate how we act/behave, and instead listen to the intelligence of our bodies (which can sometimes look like giving ourselves time and space to not do anything) eventually our fears subside.

Sometimes letting yourself sit in and feel the discomfort is part of the process.

It’s not a race to “achieve”.

When we do “nothing”, and allow the discomfort to be there as we continue to stay present and allow it to flow through us (without getting attached it), eventually it goes away.

We don’t need to be “productive” all the time. Sometimes doing “nothing” can actually be the hardest thing in the entire world, and also the most beneficial, for you AND your business.

Stillness is part of the journey.

Surrender is part of the journey.

Detaching from your thoughts and your mind is part of the journey.

Do you agree?

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📸 Photo from the masterclass